‘In a world where you can be anything, be kind’
It will not surprise you to know that going to the hairdresser’s or the doctor’s surgery is the only time I ever find myself thumbing through a ‘celebrity’ magazine. Neither will it surprise you to learn that there are very few ‘celebrities’ in those magazines that I could name. Until recently I would not have known the name Caroline Flack. Why would I? I’m not a great fan of Xtr Factor or Love Island. But last December Caroline Flack was arrested for alleged assault on former boyfriend. Her celebrity status begins to crumble around her.
This week, Caroline Flack, aged 40, took her own life. There is much criticism of the press and social media; there are sugary tributes from other celebrities who seem more interested in the word ‘I’ than ‘Caroline’. For her family, Caroline was not a celebrity, she was their Caroline who just happened to have made it on the world stage. Her family and close friends will now be plagued by the questions which accompany a suicide: ‘How come she didn’t share this with us?’ ‘Why didn’t we notice something was wrong?’ ‘If only we’d known, we could have done something’. I hope and pray the family is allowed to grieve in
peace and in private, and the press will not try to sensationalise her funeral service.
Caroline Flack’s story highlights two mental health issues
domestic violence/abuse, and depression. The old adage ‘A trouble shared is a trouble halved’ contains a deep truth. Simply by articulating our worry, our sadness, our work problems, our loneliness, to someone else can really help to lighten the burden. But not everyone has that special trusted person to share with, or perhaps you don’t wish to worry your family at this stage. Please feel that, as a first step, you can always pop in to see me. I am not easily shockable! We also have a small team of trained pastoral visitors. They are not counsellors, but they are good listeners and caring people, and understand the confidential nature of this work. ‘Come to me, all you that are weary and are carrying heavy burdens, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me; for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls’ Jesus